29 May Dating Culture in 2020
Now a days, dating has gone from going to the movies or to a fancy restaurant to “Netflix and chill.” The dating culture in 2020 consists of more hook-ups than long-term relationships, especially for the millennial generation. I mean, currently, it’s kind of difficult to find a place to go on a date amid the coronavirus pandemic. This, however, has become a great excuse to put off on making things official.
People are less likely to put a ring on it, but will 100% put their thing in it, if you know what I mean. This is not to say that every single millennial, or anyone for that matter, is unwilling to settle down. Of course, there are those few, rare people who are either ready to commit or are already tied down. Lucky them. In this day and time though, it is hard to find someone serious and ready for a relationship. I’m sure all the single ladies, and *some* men, can back me up on that.
Dating can more commonly be defined by hook-ups and sex, and less by romance and commitment. Let’s take into consideration how “dating” apps, like Tinder, have encouraged a “no strings attached” hook-up culture. One-night stands and “booty calls” have become normalized, whereas serious relationships are a thing of the past. Do whatever floats your boat, but be open and honest about what you want from your partner, so as to not confuse them or complicate the situation.
The underlying question remains: why is this the new “norm” in modern dating culture? People are scared of commitment. They’re tired of getting hurt. Or, they’re stuck on their toxic ex. There are countless reasons for staying single or being “anti-relationship,” but at the center of it all is fear. Fear of pain, commitment, vulnerability, or simply letting go. I am in no way a love expert but in my few years of experience, this is the conclusion I’ve come up with.
Being single for approximately too many years, I have seen and noticed that people, including myself, aren’t quick to jump into relationships, while others are. Those who jump from relationship to relationship are truly fearless people; I applaud you. As for the rest of us, fear is definitely a part of the reason we choose not to involve ourselves in serious commitments. However, you, the person reading this, cannot tell me that you don’t have at least one person sliding in your DM’s. This then leads me to believe that many of us are too picky.
We all want to find “the one,” our “soulmate,” someone we’re meant to be with, and who possesses desirable—often unrealistic—qualities. We expect this perfect person to come into our lives, rock our bed, I mean world, and sweep us off our feet. Well, I’m sorry to break it to you, but it does not work that way. Dating is serious work and someone who you desire isn’t always going to be a person solid enough to be in a relationship with. Choose someone who treats you the way you should be treated, not someone who only messages you past 12AM.
I’ll leave off with a wise AF quote by Ellen Hopkins, “Isn’t it ironic…we ignore those who adore us, adore those who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love those who hurt us.”
So, there it is—my analysis of the dating culture in 2020. Agree? Disagree? Let’s talk about it.