09 Apr First Date Red Flags to Look Out For | Scoop Sorority
Whether you’re looking to get back into the game after ending a long relationship or you’re chronically single, dating brings its own set of obstacles. And a first date can make or break a relationship!
Yes you matched with that total hottie on Tinder and have built up a solid text-rapport, but you won’t know if you fully click till you meet in real life. Look out for these common red flags on your next first date:
Doesn’t Ask You Any Questions
If they spend the whole time talking about themselves, without once pausing to ask you about your interests, run! While a first date should not feel like a job interview, it also should not feel like you’re listening in on a Hamlet soliloquy.
If they don’t want to get to know you, why waste your time learning their life story? Conversation is the basis for connection; it must be a two-way street.
Rude to Others
They might be sweet as honey to you, and that’s because they’re trying to impress you! To get a better feel of their attitude, watch out for how your date interacts with others. Do they flip out at the waiter when the food’s taking too long to arrive? Do they cut in lines? Big red flag!
Chances are, if your date is disrespectful towards other people, with time they’ll be disrespectful towards you too. Well good thing you haven’t forgotten your manners, because you can “thank you, next,” right out of there!
Spends Too Much Time On Their Phone
Ever been on a date and the guy’s picking up his phone every five minutes? It’s not only rude but also distracting. This shows that you don’t have they’re full attention like you should, and there’s really no point in pursuing someone who can’t be bothered to listen to you properly.
Drones on About an Ex
It’s good to be upfront about your intentions on the first date and briefly discuss your relationship history if you’d like. What’s not cool is if they spends the entire meal talking about they’re ex. If your date won’t stop talkign about an ex, this indicates that there’s no space for you in their life right now. Trust us you really don’t want to get involved with someone who hasn’t fully moved on.
Arrives Late With Zero Explanation
Look, we all know that traffic can be an absolute pain, but there’s a difference between arriving ten minutes late with a genuine apology and arriving forty minutes late with none whatsoever. If your date leaves you waiting around for ages and doesn’t offer a legitimate explanation, you may as well leave because they clearly don’t respect you or your time.
Tries To Make a Move Too Soon
Everyone has a different idea of how far they’d like to go on the first date. But, the point isn’t what you do but rather if you’re on the same page about it. If you’re in there having an awful time thinking of how to leave politely and they swoops in with a big wet kiss, you know that’s game over.
It’s important to be with someone who can pick up on your body language, and have a basic understanding of the social situation. If they can’t read the room or realize you’re not into it, leave. You deserve someone who gets you.