10 Jun 6 Ways to Cope With a Friendship Breakup
A friendship breakup can be extremely painful to deal with. Knowing you’re parting ways can hurt if it comes from someone you have a meaningful history with.
Most friendships end after a huge fallout, or just naturally fade away without any direct issue. Either way, losing a friend hurts, and it’s up to you to bounce back from it.
If you’re in need of closure or a reason to move on, here are six ways to cope with a friendship breakup.
Do a Social Media Cleansing
In fact, it can hurt you more to see your ex-friend move on from you and make new memories without you. They may also feel the same.
Sometimes, the good memories of a fallen friendship can keep you from making new memories in a new friendship. Deleting your favorite pictures and unfollowing your ex-friend may be a hard thing to do, but it’s a big step in accepting that the friendship is over.
Don’t keep them on your social media platforms and expecting them to reconnect with you. It may happen, but don’t fixate on it.
Take Care of Yourself
We’ve always heard the saying “be kinder to yourself.”
After a friendship end, you might fall into self-sabotaging habits, such as binge eating, not eating, or stalking your ex-friend’s page. It’s an unhealthy way of coping.
No friendship is worth ruining your wellness. It’s up to you to take care of yourself and consider doing things that you enjoy. Forgive yourself and don’t fixate on what went wrong in the friendship. Instead, consider it a step in a new direction for your sanity.
Don’t Involve Mutual Friends
One of the worse thing about a friendship breakup is having mutual friends, mutual friends may stop associating with you, too.
Don’t force your mutual friends to pick a side. You have the right to vent and express your hurt, but they also have the right to choose who to be friends with and that’s perfectly fine.
However, some friends can try to instigate, meddle and make situations worse.
If this is the case, consider telling your mutual friends not to mention your ex-friend in the same conversation. Therefore, things won’t get awkward!
Make New Friends
Now, this may seem like the obvious cop-out, but not everyone is super open to new friendships after ending one. If you have history with an ex-friend that means a lot to you, your first instinct is to try and save the relationship from ending.
It’s tough to say, but maybe that friendship ended for a reason. It can allow you to make new friends and meet new people that are worth your time.
Don’t make new friends as a way to get back at your ex-friend. Instead, be open to finding people you can make genuine bonds with!
Write About It
Ending a friendship can lead to emotions that are too difficult to express verbally. If it’s difficult for you to talk about it with anyone, writing about it in a journal, even in a song, can help.
Last year, I experienced a very tough breakup with a friend I cared about.
While it still hurts me to this day, I decided to let my feelings out through writing music and journals about how it makes me feel.
Give Yourself Time to Heal
Don’t be ashamed to admit that you’re still hurt by a friendship ending, and don’t let anyone tell you to “get over it” or “move on.” You have every right to feel the way you feel.
Healing from a friendship breakup isn’t like your typical scratch on the knee. It can take months or years to get over a deep bond.
Overall, it’s important that you remain patient with yourself. Don’t force yourself to heal, it’ll happen with time.