17 Oct Scoop Sorority: How To Know If A Guy Likes You
Ladies, to begin, if you are wondering whether a guy likes you or not, more often than not, he doesn’t like you. If a guy wants to be with you, he will do anything in his power to get you. But, take these tips with a grain of salt. Everything goes back to your own heart and connection with a person. You are your own best judge. You know what you want and who you want to be with.
Don’t be afraid to let a person know how you feel. Love looks different for everyone, and you shouldn’t feel a need to box yourself into one particular scenario. But, always remember who you are and your standards. If you are still curious about your man and if he is the one for you or not, keep reading.
Men Like a Chase
You cannot be too easy for a guy. He has to work hard to earn your presence, your time, and your emotions. Even if you are head over heels for a guy the second you meet him, you have to play hard to get for him to feel that he has to work hard to contact you. Here’s a metaphor: when a man was little, and he was given a gift at Christmas to play with, he probably played with that gift a maximum of a couple of weeks before getting tired of it and moving on. But, when he worked hard and saved his money or allowance to buy a toy at the top of the shelf, he cherished that toy so much because he worked hard to get it. This is the same with you, girl! You are a gift, you are unique, and he must work his way to get next to you.
A lot of girls read too much into texting. Texting can be hard to gauge because sometimes some things are interpreted differently from how they mean to say them. This takes time to get to know someone and understand how they speak in real life instead of through text. But regardless, here are some basics when it comes to texting.
The first tip is, if he is dry, be dry back. Don’t work too hard at trying to keep the conversation alive. If he is sending back one-word responses, he is most likely either busy, which he should communicate to you, so you understand he is at work, for example, or he doesn’t want to text you. Try to steer clear from long messages or the overuse of emojis because it is too much, which can scare a guy away.
On the opposite end of the tip before, if a guy puts in a lot of effort to text or call you, and you like him back, do the same. If you play hard to get too much, then the guy will lose hope and move on. You have to strike a balance. One way you can do this is just by matching the energy. If you like the energy he is giving you, reciprocate that. Don’t be so distant that he feels like you don’t like him.
Money is always a big conversation when getting into a relationship. Should the guy pay, or should you? Well, the answer is simple, he should pay at the beginning, and once you guys start getting closer and more serious, it is okay to go back and forth. Going back to the beginning, a guy has to earn you. If he cannot buy your movie ticket and some popcorn on a first date, then he isn’t the one. That is the least he can do. If he doesn’t have a job, this isn’t an excuse. He must work to try to get the money to take you out. He should save or work overtime or do something to take you out on the first date. But, don’t let money be the deciding factor. If he is genuinely the one for you, you have to ask yourself and figure out what matters the most to you.
Chivalry, Is It dead?
There are some basics a guy should do because they are a gentleman. They should: open the door for you, or give you his sweater if it is cold outside. Small things that show that a guy cares for you. But, a guy shouldn’t be given praise for doing what is expected of him. For example, we do not applaud a fish for swimming. Why? Because fishes should be swimming. This goes for guys as well. We shouldn’t be praising them for doing what is expected of them.
Social media is a very tricky thing that our generation has to consider when going into a relationship. Try not to pay too much attention to small things and overreact. Most girls are guilty of this one.
One final tip I have is to write down a list of what you look for in a partner, their qualities, interests, etc. It would help if you separated the non-negotiables from the negotiables. Use that as a guide when dating. This will help you decipher who is the one and who is not. This article was inspired by the book, “Why Men Love Bitches”.