Should You Make the First Move or Wait For Him? | Scoop Sorority

Many women have the preconceived notion that men are supposed to make the first move. And, if you’re one to love ’80s rom coms, who could blame you?

Back in the day, it was the appropriate and respectful thing for a man to make the first move. To be fair, who doesn’t love a confident man?

But, now that times have changed, should you be the one to make the first move?

Survey Says…

According to Pulse, men love when a woman comes forward and makes the first move. But why?

“The point was made that men are starved for compliments in general, which is why simply getting attention from a woman is a necessary confidence-booster.”

Okay ladies, so the first move can simply be a compliment accompanied by a friendly smile, and you’re in!

In a study conducted by Dr. Michael Mills, 10% more men preferred a woman asking them out. And, another survey, with Scientist Helen Fisher, concluded 92% of men were comfortable with women making the first move.

Sometimes all men want is a small conversation, which can happen anywhere from an elevator to the gym, to know you are confident yet approachable.

So, women, what do you have to lose? The worst thing that could happen is that they can say no or that they are not interested. At some point or another, we have all been rejected. While it may suck to know how someone truly feels, it can be better than wondering, worrying and second-guessing yourself.

Fear Rejection

Need another nudge of encouragement? Well, not all men are as confident as they may appear.

Some men are introverted individuals that fear rejection, I mean who doesn’t? But, for these individuals, it may be harder to approach a woman especially if she appears to be confident herself.

Therefore, if a woman is attracted to this particular someone, she may have to come forward to confess her feelings instead of waiting to be approached.

Nobody likes a waiting game! So don’t wait until someone else beats you to it.


On the other hand, some women may be shy themselves, or into the approach of a confident man.  

According to The Modern Man, if a guy can walk up to a woman and make the first move in a confident way, she’ll feel attraction for him and will be open to having a conversation with him. And if this is the case for you, maybe you’ll want to flip the roles for a change and shoot your shot!

Someone that puts themselves out there shows that they are interested, and that can be intriguing. And it can be what you need to get your man’s attention.

At the end of the day, do whatever makes you feel comfortable!

If you feel daring, try to make the first move to see how it goes. Who knows, it might just work in your favor.

Do you make the first move or wait for the guy to approach you? Drop a comment below and let us know!

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